Poor communication is one of the most common reasons that loving relationships breakdown. Often, our heart is in the right place but our message doesn’t land. Or we communicate with others from our defenses, triggers and past hurts.
We all land Earthside with an immediate yearning for love and connection, but we’re not necessarily equipped with the skills to best connect. Like anything, communication and connection is something we can grow in – and get better at. The place to start is to know where you are now.
Take a look at the quiz below and circle the answers that are true for you.
This practice will take radical honesty and witness awareness. The more honest you are the more you will grow from this!
QUIZ: Are you a Conscious Communicator?
U = Usually
S = Sometimes
R = Rarely
*You welcome difficult conversations and are prepared to acknowledge uncomfortable situations, rather than sweeping an issue under the carpet.
U S R
* When you begin a challenging conversation, you have a genuine intention for resolution, rather than just trying to win the argument.
U S R
*You are able to recognise that multiple realities can simultaneously exist, and make an effort to listen and understand the other person’s feelings.
U S R
*You don’t fight dirty. When you are experiencing conflict with another person, you are still able to behave with kindness and awareness. You stay away from hurtful one liners, character assassinations or nasty lables.
U S R
*You go gently with the insecurities and triggers of the other person.
U S R
*You seek ways to solve the issue and find a soloution rather than focusing on winning the fight.
U S R
*If the situation goes sideways, you make early attempts to make amends and repair the damage.
U S R
*You are able to witness when you are emotionally flooded. You can then adjust yourself with self-regulation techniques or by taking a break before things get ugly. (More on this in chapter 5).
U S R
*Owning your mistakes and apologising comes easily.
U S R
*You are able to witness when you’re operating from your ego, and make decsions that override the ego squeeze.
U S R
*You are able to bring calm to chaos rather than chaos to chaos.
U S R
*Rather than getting caught up in the little details of a fight, you are able to zoom out and look at the bigger picture.
U S R
*You are able to create boundaries around how you know you deserve to be treated.
U S R
*You recognise that conflict can be an opportunity for personal and or relational growth
U S R
*You know when to walk away from truly toxic scenarios.
U S R
*You have learnt to pause before reacting.
U S R
*You are able to witness your emotions and take the necessary steps to self regulate.
U S R
*You are able to recognise that other people’s behaviour is a reflection of their inner world. You don’t take their projections personally.
U S R
*You are able to self-validate. You’ve learnt to accept that there are times where you will be misunderstood, and you’re ok with that.
U S R
Take a look over your answers. Your Sometime’s and Rarely’s show honesty and self awareness, well done on owning these! To take you to the next level, see if you can spot this behaviour in yourself happening in real time, next time you have a challenge arise.
To learn the skills to grow in the way you communicate, join us for the upcoming Relationships Workshop. We only have a handful of tickets left for the full weekend. This will be the only Relationships Workshop for 2022, so NOW is the time!
Upcoming Workshops & Events
Relationships Workshop
Discover how to find more depth and intimacy, healthy communication and harmony in your connections. This workshop is a favourite amongst our team and participants! For Singles and Couples.
Date: April 1st – 3rd, 2022
Where: Venue 3121 – 281 Swan St, Richmond 3121
Teacher: Emma Power
Host: Lucinda Light
Workshop hours:
Friday – 6:30pm – 9:30pm
Saturday – 10:00am – 5:30pm
Sunday – 10:00am – 8:00pm (approx finish time)
For more information go here
Relationships Workshop – Friday Night Taster
Date: April 1st, 2022
Where: Venue 3121 – 281 Swan St, Richmond 3121
Teacher: Emma Power
Host: Lucinda Light
Workshop hours: Friday – 6:30pm – 9:30pm
(Please note: If you book for the full weekend workshop, there’s no need to book for the Friday night separately)
For more information go here
Sexuality Workshop
Take your lovemaking, intimacy and passion to a new level through the teachings of this very popular workshop. Learn game-changing techniques that will transform your experience of sexuality. For Singles and Couples.
NOTE: THIS WORKSHOP IS NOW SOLD OUT. However, we may offer a small number of additional tickets closer to the event. Please add your name to the waitlist if you wish to join us.
Date: May 13th – 15th, 2022
Where: Venue 3121 – 281 Swan St, Richmond 3121
Teacher: Emma Power
Host: Lucinda Light
Workshop hours:
Friday – 6:30pm – 9:30pm
Saturday and Sunday – 10:00am – 8:00pm (approx finish time)
For more information go here
Sexuality Workshop – Friday Night Taster
Date: May 13th, 2022
Where: Venue 3121 – 281 Swan St, Richmond 3121
Teacher: Emma Power
Host: Lucinda Light
Workshop hours: Friday – 6:30pm – 9:30pm
(Please note: If you book for the full weekend workshop, there’s no need to book for the Friday night separately)
For more information go here
Expansion Yoga and Meditation Weekend
Reset your mind and rejuvenate your body. Delve into a weekend of meditation, mindfulness, yoga practices and transformative teachings. You’ll leave feeling renewed, grounded and expanded. For Beginners to Advanced.
Date: May 27th – 29th, 2022
Where: Venue 3121 – 281 Swan St, Richmond 3121
Teachers: Emma Power & Nilanthi Chandra
Workshop hours:
Friday – 6:30pm – 8:30pm
Saturday – 8:30am – 5:00pm
Sunday – 8:30am – 5:00pm
For more information go here
Book
How to Have Meaningful Relationships is an essential guide for anyone who wants to build healthy, happy and sustainable relationships with the people in their lives. Relationships skills are not innate, they are skills to be learned. This pocket guide provides useful tools, ideas, and checklists to help you become the very best team player you can be.
When Love Goes South is a book that will teach you how to approach relational conflict and challenges with game-changing results. This pocket-sized guide is the relationship counseling session that many people need, but never quite get to. It is written with the intention to create a new paradigm of relating, offering the reward of getting safely and successfully to the other side of pain and challenge.
