One of the things I’ve discovered in workshops that I run, is that most of us aren’t being completely honest about how we feel about our sex lives. Even with ourselves!
One of the most powerful things you can do for your sex life is to get real about what’s going on. Because that’s when you can do something about it!
I’m also a big believer that even a good sex life can become an extraordinary, mind-blowing sex life. That one of the signs of a healthy connection is when someone is committed to continuing to grow, evolve and learn new ways of being.
The following is a quiz that was created by John Gottman, an intimacy and relationships researcher. John has been studying relationships for over 40 years, and is quite a guru in his field!
- My relationship is romantic and passionate.*
- True
- False
- My partner is verbally affectionate.*
- True
- False
- My partner expresses love and admiration to me.*
- True
- False
- My partner and I touch each other a fair amount.*
- True
- False
- My partner courts me sexually.*
- True
- False
- My partner and I cuddle with one another.*
- True
- False
- My partner and I still have our tender and passionate moments.*
- True
- False
- Our sex life is generally pretty good.*
- True
- False
- The frequency of sex is not a problem.*
- True
- False
- The satisfaction that I get from sex is not a problem.*
- True
- False
- Being able to just talk about sex, or talk about sexual problems, is not a serious issue between us.*
- True
- False
- The two of us generally want the same thing sexually.*
- True
- False
- Differences in desire are not an issue in this relationship.*
- True
- False
- The amount of “love” in our lovemaking is not a problem.*
- True
- False
- The satisfaction my partner gets from sex is not a problem.*
- True
- False
- My partner is still very physically affectionate toward me.*
- True
- False
- I feel romantic toward my partner.*
- True
- False
- My partner finds me sexually attractive.*
- True
- False
- I find my partner sexually attractive.*
- True
- False
- The satisfaction I get from sex is not a problem.*
- True
- False
- My partner compliments my appearance.*
- True
- False
- I am satisfied by how we initiate sex.*
- True
- False
- It is possible for me to refuse sex and have it be okay.*
- True
- False
- I hardly ever have sex when I don’t want to.*
- True
- False
- We have many ways to satisfy one another sexually.*
- True
- False
- Overall, I would say that my partner and I are good sexual partners.*
- True
- False
Results:
Mostly Trues – Your relationship is doing well in terms of affection, sex, romance, and passion. You have a super strong foundation already in place to now take things to the next level!
Mostly False – There’s some areas that you’ve identified that you may like to work on. Now you’re in a great place to start communicating your needs, expressing desires or working on some areas that may have been neglected.
Regardless of your results, we encourage you to join us for one of the upcoming Workshops!
Upcoming Workshops
Relationships Workshop; often sexual intimacy and a thriving relationship go hand in hand. Whether that’s with a partner or yourself, we’re ready to unveil the foundations to help you deepen your connections, communication and intimacy. Join us in discovering tools to Elevate your relationships to meaningful ones.
Sexuality Workshop; Woah, where do we even start?! One of our participants recently described this workshop as learning some kind of secret code – and once he knew the formula, his sex life went to mind blowing heights! This is someone who already had a good sex life, but we also work with both Singles and Couples wishing to bring more intimacy, techniques and connection to their relationship. And you can be assured that we approach this in a very accessible, tasteful, way!
See more details below!
And find out more of John Gottman’s work here; https://www.gottman.com/
With love,
Emma
Xox
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Upcoming Workshops & Events
Expansion Yoga and Meditation Weekend
Date: February 4 – 6, 2022
Where: Batman Royale- 14 Gaffney St, Coburg North VIC 3058.
Teachers: Emma Power & Nilanthi Chandra
Workshop hours:
Friday – 6:30pm – 9:30pm
Saturday – 10:00am – 6:30pm
Sunday – 10:00am – 6:30p
Sexuality Workshop
Date: February 25 – 27, 2022
Where: Batman Royale- 14 Gaffney St, Coburg North VIC 3058
Workshop hours:
Friday: 6.30pm – 9:30pm
Saturday and Sunday: 10.00am – 8:00pm (approx finish time)
Tantra Sexuality Workshop – Friday Night Taster
Relationships Workshop
Date: March 18 – 20, 2022
Where: Batman Royale- 14 Gaffney St, Coburg North VIC 3058
Workshop hours:
Friday: 6.30pm – 9:30pm
Saturday and Sunday: 10.00am – 8:00pm (approx finish time)
Tantra Relationships Workshop – Friday Night Taster